Hey you, I’m Lani Yadegar…

A friend once told me that I have “truth fire”.  It made me smile and tear up…and I’m pretty sure this is a good thing for coaching:)

I live outside of the box when it comes to relationships.  I believe in being creative with our love.  I believe in breaking paradigms that aren’t working anymore or that never worked.  Paradigms that our culture signs up for and subscribes to without really choosing them (READ MORE)

Sometimes I think others can describe us better than we can describe ourselves.
A friend wrote this to me:

You have this deep tribal love for the humanness. The human spirit.
You have warrior in you.
You have family in you.
You have sisterhood in you.
You have tribe in you.
And you have rebellion in you.
Fuck the rules if they’re stupid rules.
You care about the whole group.
You’re aware.
You make art. Curvy sensual colorful art that feels good and doesn’t make me feel depressed like most art.
You love your man and appreciate him.

Professional Cred:

  • I got my CPCC (certified professional Co-Active coach) certification from The Coaches Training Institute.
  • I am a graduate of the Hakomi Institute of California’s two year Comprehensive Training in mindfulness based somatic psychotherapy.
  • I am an ongoing student of Jon Eisman and the Re-Creation of the Self Somatic Psychotherapy model
  • I am in my second year studying group systems and group facilitation with the Matrix Leadership Institute.
  • I have been in many, many, many relationships of all kinds:)

The Team

Megan Kaden, PsyD

A bit about me…

I approach life with humor, open-minded curiosity and a desire to form deep and meaningful connections.  Through self-exploration and pushing myself out of my comfort zone, I have found a source of strength and wisdom in sensitivity and vulnerability.  I see the coaching process as one in which we will actively create a relationship that helps you design the relationships that you want.  I use sensitivity, creativity and intuition as the compass in all of my relationships to bring out my own and others’ truest selves.

The coaching relationship…

We will use humor, flexibility and creativity in our work together.  The relationship you and I form will serve as a foundation to allow you to make significant and lasting change in your life.  Our relationship can be a secure home base for you to make create the meaningful friendships or partnerships that you want and to explore how to expand to be your full self.  Learning to build fulfilling relationships with the people we choose is often a direct route to feelings of freedom and life satisfaction, and I am grateful to be on the journey with you.

Who I work with…

I have years of experience working with individuals from diverse cultural and ethnic backgrounds. Additionally, I have worked extensively with the LGBT, poly and fetish/kink communities, and in particular, with people facing questions about sexuality, gender identity and gender expression.  I invite people with any and all experiences and backgrounds to explore what Social Studio has to offer.

My training…

With a doctorate in clinical psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco and Bachelor’s degrees in clinical psychology and studio art from Smith College, the scope of my training runs from eastern to western philosophy, and across the globe.  I draw on these experiences to make every session challenging, supportive and beneficial, and to infuse our work with empathy and fun.


Steph Catella, PsyD.

My philosophy on relationships…

Relationships have long been one of the main ways in which I grow and learn and to which I bring curiosity.  There’s immense beauty and tenderness in the strong connections we build and I believe if we let them, they can profoundly teach us about ourselves.  I also strongly believe we all have our own internal wisdom, and when we harness it through greater awareness, our potential becomes exponential.  My passion is helping people nurture deeper and more meaningful connections and live their best life.

A bit about me…

I was recently told I have an “uplifting energy” and am strongly motivating.  I am pragmatic and intuitive, and compassionate yet assertive.  My thirst for new knowledge is never quenched and my curiosity about the world is seemingly endless.  A stronghold of inspiration for me has always been nature – from the simple pleasure of a warm breeze, to the thrill of fog gusting overhead while on top of an ocean-side bluff.  One of my favorite past times is people watching; noticing their tender moments of affection, subtle gestures, moments of joy, and everything in between.  When I’m not working, I am sipping a cup of freshly brewed Chinese tea (I’m a bit of a tea nerd!), gardening, or hiking or biking around the Bay Area, stopping to take in the stunning views.

Who I work with…

I have worked with people in a variety of relationship styles and from varying places of sexual expression and identity.  From teachers, tech workers, and artists, I’ve worked with clients from all over the Bay Area and from different pathways of life.

My training…

I earned my master’s and doctorate degrees in clinical psychology from La Salle University and completed an APA-accredited postdoctoral fellowship at the San Francisco VA Medical Center.  My love for nature and the ways in human beings interact with it is rooted in my Bachelor’s degree in Geography and Urban Studies.  My training and life experience runs a wide range and I’m particularly fascinated by the intersection between eastern and western philosophies and ways of life.

Alexa Cole

A bit about me…

I lead with a lot of trust. I find the more love I put out, the more I seem to get back. A Vermont native, I seek solace in nature and approach people with a “no bull-shit” attitude seeped in compassion.

My philosophy on relationships…

I started studying relationships when I was 8 years old and held family meetings every Sunday night around the kitchen table. Family, whether blood or chosen, is one of the most fertile grounds for deepening in our understanding of our relational patterns with partners and loved ones. I have lived with partners, with various family members, within community and alone. I am passionate about helping others create the best relationships, family, and community that works for them, and I am excited to be of service with Social Studio to do just that!

My training…

I earned a Master’s Certificate in Mediation and Conflict Resolution from Champlain College in Vermont, in which I learned how to always see two sides of any situation. I’ve always forged my own path in life and will encourage you to do the same. I have lived in multiple countries and created my own senior year high school curriculum and college degree from scratch. I have been running a group for Young Women Entrepreneurs for the past four years and run special events around creativity in the North Bay. I manage a team of 30 coaches and trainers at SNP Communications in San Francisco part time, coach with SNP, and run my own coaching consultancy.

I am certified by:

  • New Ventures West, Integral Coaching Principles
  • Cole Consulting LC, leadership coaching
  • Tracom Corp, Social Styles and Versatility: Understanding and Managing Behavioral Differences
  • Fierce Conversations
  • Difficult Conversations
  • New Israel Fund, facilitation

When I think of people coaching with Lani, I big grin comes to my face. What a rare treasure and incredible coach she is. Lani packs wisdom way (way way way) beyond her years. When you coach with her, you feel her entire being present with you, her heart open to you, and her big, valuable toolbox of tricks and know-how available to you. There are lots of great coaches out there, but few who are so amazing at helping people triumph in the world of relationships and intimacy. Lani is worth every penny she charges and without question, her clients are some pretty lucky people.

R.C. Oakland, CA, Life Coach

I started receiving dating coaching from Lani in March of this year. By May I was actively dating, and by August I had a girlfriend. Lani's coaching worked... quickly. I really liked how Lani customized an approach to dating that worked for me. Her coaching made dating feel doable and possible for me to meet the kind of woman that I wanted to. Lani is super tuned-in to what is authentic and effective. She isn't cheesy but she certainly knows how to help with self-expression and the strong feelings that come up around relationships. She always seemed to get what I was talking about and where I was coming from.

A.K. Berkeley, CA Career Coach

"I came to Lani because I felt like I was missing something when it came to dating. After three months with her, I realized that what I was missing was my personal decision to get actively and creatively involved in life, like taking the extra initiative to find activities that sound cool, going out and meeting new people who seem interesting, taking good care of myself, and being more upfront and assertive with my feelings. And while I’m still figuring out all the ins and outs of dating, I feel that, after meeting Lani, I can approach it with greater confidence and sensibility.

R.S. Palo Alto, CA Graduate Student

Social Studio is a dating and relationship coaching company based in the San Francisco Bay Area.  We are dedicated to helping our clients bring creativity to the world of relating and to find and design the relationships that they’re longing for. We have relationship coaches and dating coaches available in San Francisco, Mill Valley, and West Marin and we also serve clients all over the country and world via phone and Skype.  Lani Yadegar is the founder of Social Studio and is the head relationship and dating coach. She and her team look forward to helping you find and design a relationship that uniquely fits you!